Over the last few months I have been given a new glimpse of what life is all about.
I have recently married the most amazing man I have ever met who has turned my world around.
From the moment we met we shared an amazing chemistry and through our time together I began to look at myself in another light. I saw a more stronger, honest, loving, devoted and emotional me. I was proud to take on the days knowing that whatever I set my mind to I could accomplish. More importantly, aside from what I saw in me, I saw even more in the love of my life.
He endlessly tells me and shows me how much he loves me, he is willing to help out whenever and wherever possible, he is honest and true to all of his friends and family, and he is a driven and devoted career man. For the first time in my life I was able to look into my future and see more than myself. I was able to see us and a family.
While sharing these amazing moments in my life, tragedy had hit close to home. While I was beginning a journey with the one I loved my brother was ending a journey with the one he loved. My brother and I have been close all of our lives but it was only over the last month where i realized that each of us may be all the other one has. Of course we have our friends and our loved ones but it is your family that will never leave your side. My brother shared life with a women who was extremely selfish and always took him for granted. In the 10 years I knew her, I had never seen her do anything for anyone but herself. It was not a shock when she decided to end her marriage in a matter of 30 days, made by an overnight decision. The selfishness continued in fact when they moved into separate homes and she continued to call my brother when she was drunk or in an accident only to get the help and keep herself from embarrassment of the new people around her. It takes everything I have inside of me to be cordial to the thought of her.
Regardless of any religious beliefs, marriage is about the joining of two lives and making a commitment to be together through everything life throws at you. Marriage is about joining these two lives to create a family or a kinship. It is about finding your best friend in this life we are given. It is about going through ups and downs and good times and bad times but because of this marriage you work together to always get back to the place you started.
It breaks my heart when people give up so fast. Sure divorce is common nowadays but it should never be taken this lightly.
I remember how much getting married (for her mom before she passed) meant to her. Now all of that meaning has disappeared.